Helping Your Youth Respond to Difficult Situations
Now that my kids are ages 10 and 12, they are becoming more aware of politics in the news (like gun violence and gun control) and are even eye-witnesses to social issues (like homelessness). Youth today may even hear of news from other classmates while in the school quad or they may get their news from videos on the internet. With such immediate access to news (fake or not), youth and pre-adolescents may notice they are getting affected by it. As parents, how can we help our children process this new input and respond to it in healthy ways? Here are some tips you may consider:
Acknowledge Their Feelings
Have an open discussion about how the news or issue makes your child feel. Help your child describe and articulate their feelings by offering words like anxious, enraged, fearful, hesitant, elated, and hopeful. Accept the full range of their feelings. This is how you encourage kids to be honest and vulnerable, assuring them that they can trust you.
Offer an Unbiased Background
By nature, youth are impulsive and can jump to conclusions. It’s hard for them to discern if their source of news is true. Help your child be in the habit of considering both sides of the news or issue so they can gain perspective. Stephen Covey, author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People says “Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” Guide your youth to be empathetic and compassionate leaders.
Encourage Kids to Expand Their Horizons
While the news is of a temporal nature (in no way taking away from the significance of the event), one way to help youth deepen their appreciation of current events is to read books, especially historical non-fiction and biographies. While reading, discuss these questions with your youth: What happened in the past that contributed to today’s conflict? Who was pivotal in that movement and what was their legacy?
Find Positive, Age-Appropriate Ways Youth Can Get Involved
After being made aware of the news or social issues, some kids just want to do something about it. There are many ways to encourage youth to take meaningful action and make an impact in their community. Here are some suggested activities:
- Fill a backpack with school supplies for a migrant child
- Volunteer at the local animal shelter
- In lieu of presents, collect socks or canned food for a food bank
- Participate in a beach or creek clean-up day
- Organize a recycling program at school
- Read with someone who is learning English
Here’s to raising socially aware and responsible young adults! We can make a difference.
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Discovering the joy of teaching while in high school, Jaime pursued her B.A. in English at Santa Clara University. She also received a teaching credential and a M.A. in Education Administration from Santa Clara University. Jaime taught English Language Arts at Rancho Middle School, motivating and inspiring young people to become effective communicators and contributors in their community. From being a Middle School English Language Arts/English Language Development teacher to becoming a stay-at home mom, Jaime is an education consultant who presents literacy workshops. Her workshops focus on a combination of her ten years of teaching expertise with tried-and-true experiences that she uses with her own children. Jaime is also a Teacher Consultant with the San Jose Area Writing Project. Jaime’s mission is to share effective reading and writing strategies with families to encourage literacy.