Teaching our Kids Character Habits That Last a Lifetime

Teaching Our Kids Character Habits That Last a Lifetime (Part 1)

Academic success is important but so is raising children who are kind, courageous, and compassionate. That’s why many schools, including those inspired by EL Education, go beyond traditional academics to teach Habits of Character—the values and behaviors that help students become the best version of themselves.

While EL Education highlights four core character traits—Respect, Responsibility, Perseverance, and Compassion—many schools (like mine) build on this foundation to include other important habits such as Leadership, Empathy, Bravery, Ethical Behavior, Accountability, and Service. Together, these form a framework for developing responsible and resilient children.

The best part, you don’t need a classroom to teach these habits. Parents can nurture them at home, in the car, during family meals, and on the playground. Let’s take a closer look at each habit and how you can help your child grow in character every day.

Perseverance: Try and Try Again

In EL classrooms, perseverance means embracing challenges, using positive self-talk, and trying new strategies until success is found. At home, you can help build this habit by:

Encouraging your child to tackle difficult tasks instead of avoiding them
Modeling persistence when things get tough (even with adult frustrations!)
Celebrating effort, not just outcomes: “I’m proud of how you kept going!”

Try this: When your child wants to give up, ask, “What’s one more thing you could try?” or “Who could you ask for help?”

Books to share:

The Most Magnificent Thing by Ashley Spires: A funny and heartwarming story about a girl who struggles, fails, and tries again to create her “magnificent thing.” It’s a perfect example of grit and positive self-talk.

Rosie Revere, Engineer by Andrea Beaty: Rosie learns that failure is just a part of the process on the path to creativity and success. Encourages perseverance and curiosity.

Leadership: Inspire and Empower

Leadership isn’t about being in charge—it’s about inspiring excellence in others. Children can learn to lead by developing trust, thinking creatively, and modeling positive behaviors.

Help build leadership at home by:

Giving your child age-appropriate responsibilities
Encouraging them to speak up for themselves and others
Praising moments when they encourage siblings or friends

Try this: Ask, “What’s one way you helped someone feel confident today?”

Books to share:

What Do You Do With an Idea? by Kobi Yamada: A poetic story about nurturing ideas and having the courage to lead change, even when others don’t understand.

Swimmy by Leo Lionni: Swimmy helps a group of small fish work together to solve a problem. A simple but powerful example of leading through unity and creativity.

My next blog post will share how you can embrace the character habits of empathy, bravery, and ethical behaviors with your child at school and in daily life.

Teaching Our Children Executive Functioning Skills

As teachers prepare to support students this coming school year, they are consciously considering how to incorporate the 10 executive functioning skills in daily classroom activities. Summarized below are activities that I use daily in my classroom to shape executive functioning skills to ensue my students are successful with classroom routines and self-management:

Planning and Organization

When teaching reading, my goal is to increase student reading stamina by practicing a sequence of tasks:

Reading the pictures to connect with the story (characters + setting) to determine what the story is about
Looking at words to match the vocabulary meanings
Reading the story with reflective stops or pauses with vocabulary to confirm what the story is about
Remembering the core elements of a story that include who, what, where, why, and how
Applying comprehension strategies of sequencing events or retelling key ideas
Creating visual charts or graphic organizers to help students increase their comprehension skills when reading a story

When teaching math, students have math goals to build their math stamina with tasks:

Checking for knowledge and understanding before introducing a new math concept or operation
Giving student choice to work alone or in a small group to complete daily assignments
Having students review math facts while using the four operations of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division
Reviewing math operations with a quick problem that students can solve on their own or work with a math buddy for a solution
Training peer tutors to assist students who need added assistance to complete assignments

Task Initiation and Flexibility

When working with students, my goal is to evaluate each student’s individual learning needs and adjust individual assignments to build student skills and independent stamina by:

When introducing a new assignment, I check for understanding and have the students work on their own for approximately 10 minutes.
As students work individually on their assignment, I walk by each student to observe their ability to complete the assigned activity. If they are stressed or distracted, I break down the assignment to a manageable task.
As other classmates complete their assignment, I assign a buddy or tutor to assist individual students who are struggling to complete their assignment.

Attention and Self-Control

I use a variety of brain breaks to keep my students motivated and focused on their daily activities. These may include:

Exercising with videos and songs
Repeating classroom mantras and call back cheers
Breaking up the day with movement breaks like recess, lunch break, and morning lap running
Using fidget toys to help with anxiety and manage stress (at their desk and in a quiet zone / relaxation area)
Creating a classroom reward system with students working together as a team for special rewards and classroom celebrations
Having students select their own reading materials that match their interests
Creating flexible time for students to work together in free play, art activities, or computer game play

Metacognition (e.g. review of what you know and re-dos) and Working Memory (e.g. mental math)

Student metacognition and working memory skills are reinforced when teaching, modeling, and practicing what is being taught in each subject area (with visual tools). Students are able to reflect and assess what they learned by creating and reviewing a proficiency rubric in reading, math, and writing assignments. They can also identify academic and behavior skills that they wish develop or improve by setting a goal to monitor in the next few weeks. Homework assignments and individual projects can be aligned to support practicing these new learning milestones.

Time Management

Each morning my students review the schedule for the day. At the end of each day, they review the class schedule assignments and reflect on their accomplishments and challenges for the day. Through this daily class reflection, students evaluate what their strengths are and decide what to accomplish the next day in class. They also set goals on how they will manage their time to achieve these results. If students have had a very respectful and productive week, they are rewarded with a free play activity at the end of the week.

Perseverance

As our class works together as a team, they learn to support each other in achieving their individual learning goals and cooperatively support each other in these achievements. As a team, the students celebrate each other’s successes and support the learning of individual students as peer tutors. My job as the teacher is to guide these many milestones and celebrate small wins along the way. I adjust the schedule on challenging days to ensure all students feel validated and successful in their learning and self-growth. By integrating executive functioning skills in daily classroom activities, my young students are learning the basic skills required for success in their personal lives and professional careers.

Teaching Kids How to Be Kind

School is starting and our children will be learning new classroom management procedures with their new teachers in the next few weeks. Many of the classroom management procedures we use at our school stress being respectful and supportive to our classmates and our teacher. As a substitute teacher, I work very hard to be kind to all around me. This past summer, my grandkids observed me while I was very patient and considerate to service employees while vacationing. I extended these same acts of kindness to the grocery store staff, bank staff, restaurant personnel, and shoe store staff. I find that when I consciously act kinder to my family, friends, and community members, I am treated with more respect. I also consciously modeled this healthy behavior with my grandkids when they stayed with us in the summer. I was thrilled when my grandkids commended me for this healthy behavior!

Applying Kindness at School

As a substitute teacher, I created a variety of reading and writing learning modules for primary grade students that include human acts of kindness with the following topics:

Family Values and Classroom Team Building
Goal Setting and Extreme Weather
Rattlesnakes and Venomous Snakes
Winter Weather and Gratitude
Bios of Famous People
Solar System and Earth Day
Soil, Conservation, and Waste Management
Fractional Relationships Through Art
Resume Writing
How to Self-Publish and Enter Writing Contests

Writing and Applying Acts of Kindness

While exploring and writing on these topics, students will be able to apply human acts of kindness as they help each other with developing their stories, learning how to research information, and supporting each other through editing and tutoring. Students can learn more about how community members support each other through their research. They will also have a chance to share their stories with their classmates through gallery walks and pair and share storytelling. Older grade level students will be able to lead younger grade students in games during recess and help in the classroom with teacher led activities.

Building an Effective Classroom Management Model

As I increase my skills in modeling human acts of kindness, most students will be receptive to my modeling and will demonstrate their skills and abilities in sharing kindness with more classmates and friends. They will also serve as role models for the more challenged students and encourage their peers to work cooperatively together as a team. And finally, these kind leaders will guide their more challenged peers to cooperate for the good of the class and the healthy climate of the greater school community.

Happy new school year of collective kindness and care for all!

Beyond Backpacks: Setting Up for School Success (Part 2)

As summer starts to wrap up and the back-to-school excitement kicks in, most of us are thinking about new backpacks, fresh school supplies, and meeting this year’s teacher. Those things matter—but there’s something even more important that often gets missed: executive function skills. These behind-the-scenes brain skills are what really help kids start the year strong, no matter what grade they’re in. In my last blog, I described how parents can help their children establish routines, get organized, and make time tangible. This blog explains how parents can help their children become more flexible, manage impulses, and develop a working memory.

Flexible Thinking & Problem Solving: Embracing the Unexpected

School life rarely goes exactly as planned. Cultivating flexible thinking helps children adapt.

Brainstorming Solutions: When a problem arises (“I forgot my lunch!”, “I don’t understand this math problem!”), resist the urge to immediately solve it for them. Instead, ask, “What are some ways we could solve this?” or “What’s your plan B?”
Role-Playing Scenarios: Practice different social situations or academic challenges through role-playing. “What would you do if you finished your work early?” or “How would you ask for help if you’re stuck?”
Emphasize Learning from Mistakes: Reframe mistakes as opportunities for growth. “That didn’t work out as you planned. What did you learn from it? What could you try differently next time?”

Sustained Attention & Impulse Control: Fostering Focus

In an increasingly distracting world, the ability to focus is paramount.

Minimize Distractions: During homework time, create a low-distraction environment. Turn off TVs, put away phones, and limit background noise.
“First/Then” Statements: For younger children, “First, finish your reading, then you can have screen time.” This helps them understand expectations and build perseverance.
Mindfulness Exercises: Simple mindfulness activities (like focusing on breath for a minute or doing a quick body scan) can help children learn to regulate their attention and emotions.
Delayed Gratification: Practice waiting for desired outcomes. This could be waiting for dessert or saving up for a toy. These small acts build impulse control over time.

Working Memory: Remembering and Applying Information

Working memory is about holding information in mind to use it for a task.

Active Recall: Instead of just re-reading notes, encourage your child to explain concepts in their own words or quiz them on material.
Visual Aids: Use graphic organizers, mind maps, or drawings to help children visualize and connect information.
Break Down Instructions: Give instructions in smaller chunks. For multi-step directions, have your child repeat them back to you to ensure understanding.
Games that Boost Memory: Incorporate games like “Simon Says,” “Memory,” or “I Spy” to playfully strengthen working memory.

Remember, building executive function skills isn’t a one-and-done deal—it’s a journey that grows over time with practice and patience. Involve your child in the process whenever you can. Let them help craft their routines, test out different ways to stay organized, and come up with creative solutions when things don’t go as planned. When kids feel ownership, they’re far more likely to stick with the strategies that work for them.

These skills aren’t just for school—they’re for life. By starting now, you’re giving your child a head start on navigating challenges, staying focused, and becoming a confident, independent problem-solver in an ever-changing world. So here’s to progress, partnership, and a fantastic school year ahead!

Beyond Backpacks: Setting Up for School Success (Part 1)

As a special education teacher, I know that school success isn’t just about what kids know—it’s about how they use what they know. That’s where executive function skills come in. Think of them as the brain’s “CEO”—they help kids plan, stay organized, manage their time, stay on task, handle emotions, and roll with the punches when things change. These skills are a huge part of how kids do in school, with friends, and even at home. And here’s the best part: they’re not set in stone. We can help kids build and strengthen these skills with the right support and practice.

With the start of a new school year upon us, now is the perfect time to intentionally cultivate these vital abilities. Here’s how you can support your child’s executive function skills for a smoother, more successful academic journey.

The Power of Planning: Establishing Routines and Organization

A predictable routine provides a sense of security and significantly reduces mental load, freeing up brainpower for learning.

Create a Centralized “Command Center”: Dedicate a visible spot in your home (a bulletin board, a whiteboard in the kitchen) for a family calendar. Mark school holidays, extracurricular activities, project due dates, and even family appointments. For older students, encourage them to maintain their own digital or physical planner.
Morning and Evening Rituals: Establish consistent routines for before and after school. This isn’t just about brushing teeth; it includes packing lunches, laying out clothes, organizing backpacks, and deciding on a consistent homework time. Write these routines down for younger children using pictures, or a checklist for older ones.
Designated Study Space: Help your child set up a clutter-free, consistent workspace. This doesn’t need to be elaborate; it could be a corner of their room or a specific spot at the kitchen table. The key is that it’s reliably available and conducive to focus, equipped with necessary supplies.

Time Management: Making Time Tangible

Time is an abstract concept, especially for elementary students. Making it concrete helps them manage tasks effectively.

Visual Timers: For younger children, use sand timers or visual timers that show time ticking down. This helps them understand how long 10 or 20 minutes really is for a task.

“Chunking” Tasks: Large assignments can feel overwhelming. Help your child break down big projects into smaller, manageable steps. Instead of “Write a report,” suggest “First, research topic. Next, create an outline. Then, write introduction.”
Estimating Time: Practice estimating how long tasks will take. “How long do you think it will take to clean your room? Let’s set a timer and see!” This builds self-awareness and improves future planning.
The Pomodoro Technique (for older students): Encourage focused work sessions ( 25 minutes) followed by short breaks (5 minutes). This can dramatically improve focus and prevent burnout. Check out your phone’s app store and grab a timer for free.

These executive function skills are not just helpful for school. They are critical for life. My next blog will describe the power of planning, how to sustain attention, and increase our child’s working memory.