Teaching our Kids Character Habits That Last a Lifetime (Part 2)

When we help our kids learn character habits at school and at home, they excel more at school and home. My first blog post discussed how to help kids develop effective peserverance and leadership skills. Summarized below are strategies parents can use to help their children develop the character habits of empathy, bravery, and ethical behavior.

Empathy: See, Listen, and Feel with the Heart

Empathy teaches children to step outside themselves, understand others’ perspectives, and value diversity. It’s a cornerstone of healthy relationships and inclusive communities.

Build empathy by:

• Talking about feelings and naming emotions
• Asking reflective questions after social situations: “How do you think they felt?”
• Reading diverse books that show different cultures, experiences, and points of view

Try this: Play “perspective switch”—have your child imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling in a situation.

Books to share:

I Walk with Vanessa by Kerascoët: A wordless book that shows a small act of empathy turning into a movement of kindness. Invites deep discussion across all ages.

Lubna and Pebble by Wendy Meddour: A touching story about a young refugee who finds comfort in a pebble and then chooses to comfort another. Beautiful for discussing empathy, courage, and friendship.

Bravery: Do Hard Things

Bravery isn’t just for superheroes. It’s for kids who try new things, speak up for what’s right, and believe in themselves.

Nurture bravery at home by:

• Encouraging your child to take healthy risks (like joining a new group or speaking in front of others)
• Supporting them when they make mistakes or feel nervous
• Helping them advocate for themselves at school or in friendships

Try this: Ask, “What’s something brave you did today?”

Books to share:

Jabari Jumps by Gaia Cornwall: Jabari wants to jump off the diving board but has to face his fear first. A relatable and uplifting story of trying hard things.

Brave Irene by William Steig: Irene shows physical and emotional bravery as she battles a snowstorm to deliver a dress for her sick mother. A classic story of courage.

Ethical: Do the Right Thing

Ethical behavior means doing the right thing—even when no one’s watching. It’s about having integrity, especially when it’s hard.

Teach ethics by:

• Modeling honesty and fairness in your own choices
• Discussing real-life situations and asking, “What’s the right thing to do?”
• Praising honesty—even when it comes with a tough consequence

Try this: Ask, “What do you do when no one is watching?” and celebrate those quiet wins.

Books to share:

Do Unto Otters: A Book About Manners by Laurie Keller: A humorous and engaging story about treating others the way you want to be treated. Fun, yet rooted in the golden rule.

A Bike Like Sergio’s by Maribeth Boelts: A boy finds money and wrestles with doing the right thing. Excellent for discussing honesty, temptation, and ethics.

My next blog post will discuss how parents can reinforce the character habits of accountability, respect, and service at school and in daily life activities that can last a lifetime.

Teaching Our Kids Character Habits That Last a Lifetime (Part 1)

Academic success is important but so is raising children who are kind, courageous, and compassionate. That’s why many schools, including those inspired by EL Education, go beyond traditional academics to teach Habits of Character—the values and behaviors that help students become the best version of themselves.

While EL Education highlights four core character traits—Respect, Responsibility, Perseverance, and Compassion—many schools (like mine) build on this foundation to include other important habits such as Leadership, Empathy, Bravery, Ethical Behavior, Accountability, and Service. Together, these form a framework for developing responsible and resilient children.

The best part, you don’t need a classroom to teach these habits. Parents can nurture them at home, in the car, during family meals, and on the playground. Let’s take a closer look at each habit and how you can help your child grow in character every day.

Perseverance: Try and Try Again

In EL classrooms, perseverance means embracing challenges, using positive self-talk, and trying new strategies until success is found. At home, you can help build this habit by:

• Encouraging your child to tackle difficult tasks instead of avoiding them
• Modeling persistence when things get tough (even with adult frustrations!)
• Celebrating effort, not just outcomes: “I’m proud of how you kept going!”

Try this: When your child wants to give up, ask, “What’s one more thing you could try?” or “Who could you ask for help?”

Books to share:

The Most Magnificent Thing by Ashley Spires: A funny and heartwarming story about a girl who struggles, fails, and tries again to create her “magnificent thing.” It’s a perfect example of grit and positive self-talk.

Rosie Revere, Engineer by Andrea Beaty: Rosie learns that failure is just a part of the process on the path to creativity and success. Encourages perseverance and curiosity.

Leadership: Inspire and Empower

Leadership isn’t about being in charge—it’s about inspiring excellence in others. Children can learn to lead by developing trust, thinking creatively, and modeling positive behaviors.

Help build leadership at home by:

• Giving your child age-appropriate responsibilities
• Encouraging them to speak up for themselves and others
• Praising moments when they encourage siblings or friends

Try this: Ask, “What’s one way you helped someone feel confident today?”

Books to share:

What Do You Do With an Idea? by Kobi Yamada: A poetic story about nurturing ideas and having the courage to lead change, even when others don’t understand.

Swimmy by Leo Lionni: Swimmy helps a group of small fish work together to solve a problem. A simple but powerful example of leading through unity and creativity.

My next blog post will share how you can embrace the character habits of empathy, bravery, and ethical behaviors with your child at school and in daily life.

Teaching Our Children Executive Functioning Skills

As teachers prepare to support students this coming school year, they are consciously considering how to incorporate the 10 executive functioning skills in daily classroom activities. Summarized below are activities that I use daily in my classroom to shape executive functioning skills to ensue my students are successful with classroom routines and self-management:

Planning and Organization

When teaching reading, my goal is to increase student reading stamina by practicing a sequence of tasks:

• Reading the pictures to connect with the story (characters + setting) to determine what the story is about
• Looking at words to match the vocabulary meanings
• Reading the story with reflective stops or pauses with vocabulary to confirm what the story is about
• Remembering the core elements of a story that include who, what, where, why, and how
• Applying comprehension strategies of sequencing events or retelling key ideas
• Creating visual charts or graphic organizers to help students increase their comprehension skills when reading a story

When teaching math, students have math goals to build their math stamina with tasks:

• Checking for knowledge and understanding before introducing a new math concept or operation
• Giving student choice to work alone or in a small group to complete daily assignments
• Having students review math facts while using the four operations of addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division
• Reviewing math operations with a quick problem that students can solve on their own or work with a math buddy for a solution
• Training peer tutors to assist students who need added assistance to complete assignments

Task Initiation and Flexibility

When working with students, my goal is to evaluate each student’s individual learning needs and adjust individual assignments to build student skills and independent stamina by:

• When introducing a new assignment, I check for understanding and have the students work on their own for approximately 10 minutes.
• As students work individually on their assignment, I walk by each student to observe their ability to complete the assigned activity. If they are stressed or distracted, I break down the assignment to a manageable task.
• As other classmates complete their assignment, I assign a buddy or tutor to assist individual students who are struggling to complete their assignment.

Attention and Self-Control

I use a variety of brain breaks to keep my students motivated and focused on their daily activities. These may include:

• Exercising with videos and songs
• Repeating classroom mantras and call back cheers
• Breaking up the day with movement breaks like recess, lunch break, and morning lap running
• Using fidget toys to help with anxiety and manage stress (at their desk and in a quiet zone / relaxation area)
• Creating a classroom reward system with students working together as a team for special rewards and classroom celebrations
• Having students select their own reading materials that match their interests
• Creating flexible time for students to work together in free play, art activities, or computer game play

Metacognition (e.g. review of what you know and re-dos) and Working Memory (e.g. mental math)

Student metacognition and working memory skills are reinforced when teaching, modeling, and practicing what is being taught in each subject area (with visual tools). Students are able to reflect and assess what they learned by creating and reviewing a proficiency rubric in reading, math, and writing assignments. They can also identify academic and behavior skills that they wish develop or improve by setting a goal to monitor in the next few weeks. Homework assignments and individual projects can be aligned to support practicing these new learning milestones.

Time Management

Each morning my students review the schedule for the day. At the end of each day, they review the class schedule assignments and reflect on their accomplishments and challenges for the day. Through this daily class reflection, students evaluate what their strengths are and decide what to accomplish the next day in class. They also set goals on how they will manage their time to achieve these results. If students have had a very respectful and productive week, they are rewarded with a free play activity at the end of the week.

Perseverance

As our class works together as a team, they learn to support each other in achieving their individual learning goals and cooperatively support each other in these achievements. As a team, the students celebrate each other’s successes and support the learning of individual students as peer tutors. My job as the teacher is to guide these many milestones and celebrate small wins along the way. I adjust the schedule on challenging days to ensure all students feel validated and successful in their learning and self-growth. By integrating executive functioning skills in daily classroom activities, my young students are learning the basic skills required for success in their personal lives and professional careers.

How to Help Struggling Students Learn

It is a new school year with lots of exciting learning opportunities for my students. After completing several weeks of assessing and observing my students’ academic strengths and challenges, I have modified my teaching strategies based on best practices for children with English acquisition, behavior, and struggling reader needs. Listed below are successful strategies I am using to support some specific learning challenges.

English Learners

English learners receive weekly academic tutoring support from staff in a school-wide pull-out program. Additionally, English learners are seated next to compassionate and supportive English-speaking classmates who can interpret and guide their English learner peers with various assignments. Creating a safe environment is critical for my non-native speakers. Sentence frames and charted models were essential for them to use before they were willing to try on their own. Native speakers learn how to become effective tutors while guiding their English learner classmates. Additionally, to encourage organic speaking opportunities in the classroom, I moved to having student-teachers. After math tests were corrected, students who demonstrated understanding of a particular math problem from the test became the teacher for that problem. Even students who needed to work 1:1 with me during the test had an opportunity to articulate how to solve the problem to their peers. It was a natural way for them to reprocess their learning, raise their social status in the classroom, and build confidence.

Overly Active and Aggressive Students

Students with an undiagnosed learning challenge that may also include hyperactive/ attention deficit disorder can be frustrated and disruptive in traditional classroom settings. Some benefit from using sensory fidget toys to relieve stress and anxiety. Other students benefit from sitting apart from their classmates. Finding the proper setting for individual students takes time and patience. I also have the students evaluate what strategies work best when separating them from their peers. After a meeting with the parent and student, together we develop a plan that involves modifying a targeted behavior, a monitoring system, and a reward chart. For example, one student is motivated to cooperate with class work by sitting alone and earning a beef jerky treat at the end of class while another works with his classmates to earn fruit clusters. Extrinsic motivation is key for these high energy students.

Fearful, Anxious, and High Functioning Autistic Learners

Some students are overwhelmed with specific assignments. When assessing their academic skills, I find that these students are capable but can become emotionally anxious or will not perform when asked to complete a rigorous academic assignment. When students are overwhelmed, I break down the assignment into smaller tasks for each student. These smaller tasks will eventually meet the requirements of a rigorous assignment. Frequent check-ins help encourage these students to move beyond their discomfort. Once many of these students get started, most are very successful and achieve beyond their anticipated abilities.

Delayed Learners

Unfortunately, some of my students do not test well and are significantly behind their grade level abilities. They have not yet qualified for special education services, but still must complete their assignments in class. Once I have identified their academic needs, I use computer adaptive online assignments for reading and math assignments. When teaching reading and math, I use small group instruction to reinforce basic reading and math skill development. I also seat learning challenged students with classmates who can help them complete grade level assignments. This year I discovered the power of personal notes. Boosting a student’s confidence in the area that you see growth helps them build self-esteem and lets them know you see them. I would attach a handwritten note to important assignments letting them know how hard they tried, commenting on an area of strength, and then letting them know where they could grow. A delayed learner needs their teacher to be their biggest cheerleader because the struggle can be overwhelming.

Overall Classroom Success that Supports Cooperation at Home

When I am responsive to the individual needs of each of student, they feel validated, respected, and work harder to achieve success. As a class, we set milestone achievement celebrations that might include a tech play day, pajama and cuddly critter day, and a pizza movie day. As a class, we evaluate our class performance each day and earn points towards participating in these larger classroom celebration days.

The strategies we use in class also work effectively at home for most students. Wishing you much success in supporting your child’s learning this school year.

Teaching Kids How to Be Kind

School is starting and our children will be learning new classroom management procedures with their new teachers in the next few weeks. Many of the classroom management procedures we use at our school stress being respectful and supportive to our classmates and our teacher. As a substitute teacher, I work very hard to be kind to all around me. This past summer, my grandkids observed me while I was very patient and considerate to service employees while vacationing. I extended these same acts of kindness to the grocery store staff, bank staff, restaurant personnel, and shoe store staff. I find that when I consciously act kinder to my family, friends, and community members, I am treated with more respect. I also consciously modeled this healthy behavior with my grandkids when they stayed with us in the summer. I was thrilled when my grandkids commended me for this healthy behavior!

Applying Kindness at School

As a substitute teacher, I created a variety of reading and writing learning modules for primary grade students that include human acts of kindness with the following topics:

• Family Values and Classroom Team Building
• Goal Setting and Extreme Weather
• Rattlesnakes and Venomous Snakes
• Winter Weather and Gratitude
• Bios of Famous People
• Solar System and Earth Day
• Soil, Conservation, and Waste Management
• Fractional Relationships Through Art
• Resume Writing
• How to Self-Publish and Enter Writing Contests

Writing and Applying Acts of Kindness

While exploring and writing on these topics, students will be able to apply human acts of kindness as they help each other with developing their stories, learning how to research information, and supporting each other through editing and tutoring. Students can learn more about how community members support each other through their research. They will also have a chance to share their stories with their classmates through gallery walks and pair and share storytelling. Older grade level students will be able to lead younger grade students in games during recess and help in the classroom with teacher led activities.

Building an Effective Classroom Management Model

As I increase my skills in modeling human acts of kindness, most students will be receptive to my modeling and will demonstrate their skills and abilities in sharing kindness with more classmates and friends. They will also serve as role models for the more challenged students and encourage their peers to work cooperatively together as a team. And finally, these kind leaders will guide their more challenged peers to cooperate for the good of the class and the healthy climate of the greater school community.

Happy new school year of collective kindness and care for all!